Good sex is the gift that keeps on giving. Whether you’re a couple hoping to get naughty in 2020 or you’re flying solo and want to treat yourself to something nice, the holidays are the perfect time to slip something sexy under the tree.
(FYI: some of theleastsexiest gifts I’ve received include a bottle of men’s cologne, a battery recharger and a broom. These were all given to me by the same man. Don’t be this man.)
If you need some inspiration for the perfect gift to kick your sex life up notch, here’s a few gift suggestions inspired by my favourite products and experiences.
- Sutil Love Potions($29.95)
My mind has always been a busy place. There’s rarely a moment when I’m not thinking about new story ideas or my to-do list. Sometimes it can be hard for me to unwind and get in the mood for sex. These “Love Potion” sensual massage oils have been a godsend. Made with a blend of essential oils, the scents work by travelling through your olfactory system to the portion of your brain that controls your heart rate, blood pressure, breathing, and sexual impulses.
Not only do these potions smell fantastic, but I do feel a little more relaxed and sensual when I use them. Apply the oils while giving or receiving a massage as part of foreplay, or rub them on your skin after the shower to add a little pep in your step.
- Pillo by Dame($95)
Whether you struggle to find the right position during sex or simply want to get creative, this minimalist sex “pillo” from Dame can help you find exactly the right spot while supporting your body. Even better, it looks like a regular pillow so your nosy relatives won’t be scandalized if they spot it in your bedroom or under the tree. They’ll probably even believe you when you tell them it’s for using your laptop in bed. (And yes, it works great for that too.)
At Cedar Point amusement park in Ohio there’s this ride called the Top Thrill Dragster, where you go from zero to 200 km/h in 3.8 seconds. I like to think of The Sona 2 Cruise as the sex toy equivalent. As I’ve mentioned before, a large number of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Instead of vibrations, the Sona uses SenSonic technology to stimulate the clitoris. The result is a unique sucking sensation that results in quick, powerful, knee-shaking orgasms.
- A “Nakation” ($$$)
After spending the past two years visiting as many clothing optional resorts as possible, there’s something incredibly liberating about being in a sex-positive environment abroad. If you haven’t worked up the nerve to go somewhere like Temptation in Cancun (where bikini tops are optional and tan-lines are close to non-existent), consider a getaway or even a staycation. When it comes to having great sex (either with yourself or a partner), there’s something to be said about being in a new environment, away from the responsibilities of home.
Lastly, while this isn’t the sexiest suggestion, consider doing that annoying task that you or your partner have been putting off. You know exactly what I’m talking about.
I don’t know about you guys, but it’s way easier for me to get in the mood for sex when I don’t have a million different things on my mind or cluttering up my space (dirty dishes! A couch covered in cat hair and unfolded laundry! A tower of empty Amazon boxes in the garage!) Note: I once told a partner that my biggest turn on was when he took the initiative to clean the bathroom without me asking first. I wasn’t lying.
Luxury sex toys and frolicking naked in paradise is great, but so is looking after yourself. Adulting is a form of self-care (that benefits everyone!), so do that thing that needs doing. Bonus points if it’s a chore that your partner hates to do. Cleaning up the garage and folding laundry isn’t naughty, but it’s a nice way to clear the deck for sexier things to come.